Question by : Should they send foster children to boarding schools? Why or why not?
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Answer by Jillian
Is there any reason for them not to go to regular school?
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Question by : I need some advice from foster parents!?
I have a problem. I will try to give as much detail as I can. Just ask if things don’t make sense.
My brother had a baby with a woman he didnt really know. She turned out to be really abusive and the baby was taken from her at 8 months old and put into foster care. They tried to get my brother to take the little boy but my brother is a drug addict and just a mess and long story short he didnt bother and didnt tell anyone about the baby.
So now the mother’s rights have been terminated after she didnt show up for classes and messed up over and over and my brother signed his rights away willingly. After 3 years, we got a call saying that we had a nephew (who we did not know about). My brother told them he had no family when they asked him before (nice right?). So we had to take a couple classes but we agreed to take him, and possibly look at adopting him.
He has now been with us for 3 months and it is not going well. We love him but he never should have been moved. He had a very close bond with his foster mother, and every day I can see how much trauma this is putting him thru. I feel awful, and last night, my husband and I made the decision that we are not the right place for this little guy.
We feel he should be with his foster mother (he has been crying and screaming for “mumma” since he arrived) but we don’t want him just going to another foster home. The point of us disrupting this placement would be so that he could go back and be with his foster mother again. She is a very kind woman and I know she’d let us see him, but he just doesn’t belong here. He’s not happy, and we feel terrible all the time. This happened so unexpectedly, and we have a litte guy here who belongs with the parent he knows and loves.
Is there any chance that if we disrupt, he can go back to the same foster parents? We don’t want to do it otherwise. If it helps, we’re in AZ.
Thanks.
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Answer by Rosie
Maybe, maybe not. She might not have room for him or accept him back or the social worker might think it will harm him more in the long run.
And even then only temporarily, till another adoptive placement is found, by which time he will be distraught beyond repair with the upheavals. poor thing.
You could ask the foster mother if she had considered adoption of him. Did she have him from 8 months old till recently? Wow, I know how hard that is on a foster mom and child. It sucks.
What you can do is see if you can arrange more visits with “mumma” so he can steady himself. There should have been transition visits in an ideal world. They will be hard on everyone involved, but it will help him in the long run. One a week for 6 weeks then one every two weeks, etc. And have her call to talk to him.
Give his adjustment more time. The theory is that he is better off in kinship care, even if he is attached and grieving right now.
The best thing you can do for him is be confident that you are meant to have him and that you are the best placement. You have to “claim” him as your own. Doubt in your eyes will unsettle him and make the transition worse.
You are going to feel terrible for a while. That’s okay. You have to suffer a bit, it’s kinda unavoidable. He needs you to be strong and steady. He needs to belong.
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Question by Starting a new life: Do you believe child support and custody is an unfair battle for any man? Part 4?
After careful consideration and reading all the responces I see that there really are no people out there that have truly answered my question. My belief is that the reason is that we are taught to believe that woman are better parents than men and the woman hater groups have made it so that if you are a male you will pay no matter what without any supervision over where the money is actually used for. Thus the truth is that a woman can spend the money on whatever they please which in many cases is not in the best interest of the children. My friends ex wife spends her child support money on her new man. This is totall B.S. No one should have to pay for a person to get through life. Yes the kids should be taken care of. However, who has the right to say that a male is not a capiable parent. This is the system that men allowed women to create and now we all must suffer. Now to answer the question that I asked earlier the system is definately unfair and the only way to make a women get off her A$ $ stop living off child support and get a job to support the kids is to HAVE MORE KIDS BY DIFFERENT WOMAN. This is the only way to bring balance to a system that is unfair. A man should not be forced to pay 50% of his wages and a woman is allowed to sit home and do nothing. By having more kids by different woman the money you pay out will be divided among all the kids, therefore a woman would be forced to get a job. To help pay for the kids. Yes you as a man will be on the hook until the kids are a certain age but at least you will not feel like you are a slave for the woman. Everybody say what about the kids. The truth is that even dyfis knows that it doesnt take as much to pay for kids that’s why if your a foster parent you receive $ 4-500 a month for a child. Yet if its your own kid they want a man to pay 50% of there pay to the kids and thats even with 50/50 custody. The system is a ripoff and the only way to get not allow a woman to life off you labor is to have more kids.
Unfornately Koo you are absolutly wrong. In may case the woman I married had a promising future and started out a hard worker but after 5 years she CHANGED and though had the belief that I owe her the world. I never cheated or did anything to her to make her feel this way toward me. She decied she no longer wanted to be married because she FELT that there is things that she missed while growing up. And unfortuately, that was not going to fly with me. If you are married your suppose to be with that person for life and grow with that person not regress to your former ways or long for past unstatified pleasures. You don’t know a person until you live with them for a long period of time. People can hide there true selves for years before you know the truth.
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Answer by you’re fake !
man just pay the money !!
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Question by : Should I give my baby up for open adoption?
I am 19 years old, currently in college and due in 2 months with a baby girl. My boyfriend has already made up his mind that he wants to give her up for adoption and I don’t know how to stick up to him. I already cry a lot because of this decision and it will be very hard for me because I have a lot of love for her. We are both not financially or emotionally ready to be parents and just want whats best for her.
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Answer by Robin Hatchling
If you give her up for adoption and aren’t emotionally equipped to do so, you’ll regret it for the rest of your life. Your boyfriend might not agree and he might leave you, but you should keep your baby. You can get help through your college (daycare expenses) and other types of help to cover formula and baby food if you can’t afford it (and aren’t breast feeding). I had my daughter when I was 18 and a freshman in college. I’m a junior now and, although I’m married, it’s definitely been worth it to have my little girl around!
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Question by : Foster parents? or run away?
Ok b4 u say anything about me over reacting, or that happens just stick with it, or just
wait it will get better cuzz it won’t….. I’ve waited 4 years and no change… 
so I’m having problems at my house…. my dad is always drinking… my sister is a complete asshole to my mom. Then my mom gets pissed and takes it out on me cuzz I’m not doing well in all the hard subjects at school…. my mom and dad r always fighting because there jobs rnt doing the best right now….. they have to pay for school, my bros college and food… ( I have 3 bros a sis and a fat dad) what should I do plz help me
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Answer by cricketlady
Foste rparents is not going to happen and if you run off you will be sent to a locked facility.
Somehow, stick it out and when you’re an adult —–be the mature adult and don’t let family dictate your future.
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