Question by encourager4God: Parents a little guidance with this one see below?
I know whether you are a parent, guardian, foster parent that young little children will test your patience and you dont always have the easiest or best days with them at times.
I realize children see what you do even when you think they dont notice and they pick up how you act/react.
My question what is the best way to get through the hard and tough days and what are god godly ways to deal with and accept when they tantrum or fight, or nag or nudge?
Your answers would be helpful and thanks:)
Best answer:
Answer by www.Impressions-Ezine.com
Everyone (including moms) need a time out when there’s tension. Send everyone to their rooms and set the microwave timer. Then deal with what happened. You’ll be much calmer then.
What do you think? Answer below!
Sometimes you want to scream. But you have to keep in mind at those moments just how worth all the agrivation is. Get through the moment on this… and then go in the car let out a huge scream and go on with the day. Always worked for me.
I usually give my son an option. Either keep having the tantrum or stop. If he wishes to continue…he can take it to his bedroom and come out when he’s done. He always stops. Well..almost…occasionally he will go to his room and cry a little more. I do it with whining, tantrums and being generally obnoxious. Works a little better now that he has gotten a little older, but have been doing it for two years now. (He’s 3 years and 3 months). When he was younger and threw a tantrum, I would tell him…when your done I’ll be over here and would leave the room. No audience meant no tantrum. Also try not saying “no.” By this I mean say they ask for candy before dinner…instead if saying “no…” say “ok. you can have candy after you eat dinner.” Works like a charm with my little guy!!
Good luck!
P.S. He also LOVES Spiderman…and we have even threatened to call Spidey and tell him how bad my son is behaving. Don’t know why…but that snaps him up really quick and keeps him in line in public places where you might not have a room to send him.
i think the best thing to do when a child is having a fit / tantrum is to ignore it… they are looking for a response and if you don’t give them one it isn’t so much fun. I have three little ones and it is hard. try to give them a nap and if they are to old they can still go into their rooms and read or watch a movie and it gives everyone a much needed break in the day. Best of luck to you
Godly ways in and Godly ways out. If the word is going in than it will go out. Spend time with Him. He will show you were you need to adjust and your children didn’t learn every childish thing from you. Some of the best lessons in life are how much you keep growing.
I know what your going threw. I have 4 kids -1 has ADHD they other is 15 hormonal city. What I do is – time outs and I have a place were each child has there own little place to do there own thing that’s not in there room. Finding things to out side of the home has saved my sanity. We go to Barnes and nobel, park, craft stores to get small things for them to do. I make sure they are reminded threw repetition and the take away method to treat one another with respect.
I have 3 children ages 5, 9 and 11. And i work full time with special needs children. My advice is a time out or even an MP3 player you can turn on and tune them out for a few minutes (dont ignore them though). Its reasonable to ask for them to go to their rooms and give you a breather or simply sit on the sofa and calm down. You dont have to accept when they tantrum, fight, nag, or nudge. You deal with those issues using your preffered discipline method be it time outs, talking, or even spanking. But children have a way of pushing buttons when they wish to and you need to find a way to get enough distance to calm down. When my eldest was 5 and the others were 3 and 6 months I used to joke about how there were days i didnt know how i lived through lunch time much less the whole day. Dont beat yourself up over it just step away and look for something positive. And trust your instincts. Too many good parents don’t.
At these times perhaps your little one is seeking your undivided attention? If so, the best thing you can do is stop what you are doing (if possible), and sit with him and read to him, or something else he likes to do. If he is ornery all the time, perhaps he needs some evaluation by a doctor or other professional. All kids will wrangle with each other……..and it is hard for moms, for sure. Make sure your children have good, wholesome foods to eat, no sweet stuff, or lots of breads and stuff with white flour. Good nutrition may be a key here. Above all, each night when they are asleep you can stand by their beds and pray for them, asking the Lord to intervene, and to help these precious tots. In a few short years they will be out of your nest. Try to ENJOY them now. It is a mindset, and it works. Blessings to you !